In an effort to ease my hurting heart this Fall, I am participating in Project Heal: Capture Your Grief. It is a storytelling/photography project to honor the babies we've lost.
Day 8: Wish List
So, even though it ripped my heart to do it, I baked and decorated two little cakes and we celebrated both girls. After Ella blew out her candles she said, "Mom! My wish came true! We BOTH had a birthday today!"
We've done this every year since.
My wish every year has been to make baby loss less of a stigma. If we are to EVER begin healing, we have to talk about it. It cannot be something shut away in a dark corner of our heart, never to come out. It doesn't work that way. I tried that, and it nearly destroyed me, my marriage, and my entire life. We need to tell our children's stories, write their names, and unite together, to help one another heal.