Her Children Rise Up...

It's Mother's Day!

I've decided to dedicate a blog entry to all the Moms who have taught me over the years.

My grandmother, Aniela Lukasik. The first "Mom" I ever knew. She kicked my butt when needed. She dragged me to church EVERY SUNDAY. She loved me and always told me to do my best. I have an Easter card from her on my fridge, and it's moved across 3 states with me. Grandma died when I was 14, and I felt like a huge part of my heart died too.


My Mom, Alina. Our relationship has been difficult to say the least, but I think we are both finally at a place in our lives where we are making a conscious effort to be good to each other. When I was first learning to cook, I used to call her all the time, asking, "How much of (insert ingredient here) do I use?" "What do I do now?" I miss those phone calls.

My oldest sister, Gosia. When I got pregnant with Ella, we were not in a good place in our relationship. BUT, if I ever needed anything or had a "new mother" question, she was always there. I remember the little bags of chamomile tea she used to send me when I was crying from lack of sleep because my newborn was waking me every hour.

My "adopted" Grandma, Jean. From day one, she treated me like her own. She's laughed with me, and cried with me, and always, always been there. When I broke my wrist, she sacrificed her birthday to go and hang out with me to "make sure I eat." Ella just thinks of Jean as her "Nanny", and we refer to Ella as Grandma's "namesake" (Gram's name is actually Ella Jean)

Ms. Lora Cantrell. I can't even think of her without tearing up. She is my biggest and best example of a Christian lady to this day. Before she passed away in October 2012, I was at her house probably 2-3 times a week. Ella adored her. I did, too. I had no idea that she had been abandoned by her children up until right before she died...I had no idea how much our visits meant to her until someone approached me at her funeral to thank me for taking care of her.

My Sunday School teacher, Ms. Betty Burleson. About a year ago, she saw something in me. Potential, a spark. A love for His word. She has pushed me to learn more, to know more, to love more. We've stood by each other when we've needed it most. I hope I can grow to be half the lady she is.

Being a Mom, I hope my daughter learns from me. I hope any future children I have can rise up and call me blessed. Just being a Mom, I AM blessed. Blessed by God. Blessed by these beautiful ladies I know.

19/52

Another week of blessed craziness and insanity! And then there's this....

19/52: Ella is a gentle, old soul. She loves animals and they love her. We saw these ducks on our way home from dinner and they just flocked to her.

19/52, Sunday: Look at all that hair. Seriously, it's ridiculous. Somebody yelled at me the other day for "letting her" cut it in October. She is selfless and it was her decision!

Monday Funday and a Giveaway

First off, I'm aware it's Tuesday :)

Mondays are usually my days off and usually the days where I can actually get out and do fun crafts and stuff with Ella. So, I tend to actually do the fun stuff instead of posting about it.

Yesterday, we tested two bubble solutions to see which one did better.

One was a solution of:

2 tablespoons Method dish soap
1 tablespoon glycerin
1 cup distilled water


the other was
2 tablespoons blue Dawn dish soap
1 tablespoon glycerin
1 cup distilled water

The directions for both solutions are the same. Put in a seal-able container, and mix gently.

We found we both liked the Method solution better...mostly because we like the smell of the Method "Clementine" dish soap. They both worked great...as you'll see in the pictures!

getting all the stuff ready....

Method solution

Method solution

Method

 

 

Method

Method

Dawn

Dawn

the neighborhood cats turned up to see what all the fuss was about.

Now, for the giveaway...I'm going to give away everything needed to make both bubble solutions, right down to the distilled water. No lie.

To enter: Comment here with your email address and how you make your bubbles, whether it's a store-bought solution like Miracle Bubbles or something you whip up yourself!

Winner will be announced May 16th!

Good Luck!

I Survived!

Today was Day 30.

I'm not one to beat around the bush, so I'll say this:

it was hard, but...

IT WAS WORTH IT.

Every single push-up, every leg lift, every squat.

I'm a work in progress, but progress has absolutely happened.

I feel fantastic. I made it a point to take a picture of myself in the same outfit. When Gabe saw me in it today, and then clicked on the "Day 1" picture, he said, "Wow. You can definitely tell the difference."

I'm taking tomorrow off to give my muscles a chance to rest. Thursday, I start a 3-week workout, and June 1st, I'm starting "Mean Abs June." Truthfully, I'm a little bit afraid of that, but I'll make it! (Right?????)

Last Mother'sDay Project Update: Thank You

Today, I wrote out the last card.
Today, my daughter decorated the last envelope.

And then I broke down in tears.

I am 12 days out from my girls' birthdays. And I am doing what I love.
Usually, this time of years is full of sleepless nights, panic attacks, and crying jags.

For the first time since Riley Grace died, I feel peaceful. I feel fulfilled. I feel...dare I say it...joyful.

I'm helping people. I'm giving them what I so, so desperately wanted after that awful day in 2005. Acknowledgement. Affirmation. These children, these babies, exist. These ladies are still moms. They are the embodiment of strength. To be able to get out of bed in the morning after such a loss is a feat sometimes.

If anyone wants a Father's Day card for an angel Dad, email me. joanna.unbehaun@yahoo.com
I am working toward something big for October 15th.
Anyone with ideas or suggestions, please let me know.

To everyone who supported this project, thank you. You mean more than you will ever know.
To everyone who is receiving a card, thank you for letting me do this for you.
To my husband, who stood by me and told me I was doing something worthwhile, thank you. You're my rock during times where I feel like I am spinning in circles, going nowhere, and everything is out of control.
To my daughter who gave of her time and herself, thank you. You are amazing. Wise beyond your seven years. I am so blessed to be your mother.
To my angel daughter...you made all of this possible. Thank you.
Lord...thank You. You are good all of the time. Thank You. Thank You. Thank You.

 

 

General Life update and Someting New.

I know it's a cop-out to post "we've been busy", but yes, we've been busy.

Our school year ended this Thursday, so we've had lots to do with wrapping up final studies and such. Of course, this does not mean that our school year is really over, as Ella tends to learn year-round.

My Dad is not gaining weight as much as doctors would like him to, (don't worry, the cancer is not back), and it's all due to the medications that he is on (which are beneficial) as well as his mounting anxiety (if you had been through what he has been through this past year, trust me, you'd be anxious too).

My oldest sister and I are in agreement that Dad should be on a mild antidepressant to take the edge off his anxiety. My brother says antidepressants are of the devil and that they don't work. Never mind the fact that my Mother has been on them for about ten years. Sigh. Please pray with me that Dad will make the right decision.

This morning, my beloved Sunday School teacher stepped down due to her husband's declining health. While I saw this coming, I am still pretty crushed. She has been a huge influence, a shoulder to cry on, and most importantly, a friend. She has been the picture of grace under any circumstance, and I am truly blessed to be counted as her friend.

I was blessed to receive a package of Mother's Day cards for the project this year, and I am trying to come up with something to do for October 15th, as it is the only day we have that is truly about remembering our babies. I have been stressed to the gills, and I am trying not to let the devil have a foothold in my life.

ALL that aside...

I have received so much love and support from fellow angel moms about this project. It humbles and amazes me.

I am currently on Day 28 of this 30 Day challenge. I've almost made it! My husband says I look incredible, and truthfully, I feel incredible. The leg lifts make me feel like my ab muscles are going to snap like a rubberband, but I'm totally not going to stop working out after this. I think I am going to do a running challenge after this, and then my friend Brittney and I are starting something called Mean Abs June...which I'm a little afraid of, but BRING IT ON!

Lastly, Ella and I are starting a new monthly tradition. Something called "Girls and Pearls". Today was the first. Basically, we get all fancied up in pearls and such and go out for a meal or a girls' day out. It doesn't have to always be on a Sunday, but I felt like it had to happen today after Mrs. B left.

Ella in her pearls :)

Forgive my splotchy face. I've been crying all morning.

and one of us together.

Today, Ella wanted to go to McDonald's, so there we went. Maybe next time we can do something more fancy/befitting of the "girls and pearls" name :) Or maybe not. That's part of the fun of motherhood!

18/52

This week has been insane. More on that later. Meanwhile...

18/52: Ella is not a materialistic kid, and when she announced that she wanted this fairy flyer, she saved up her own money and did chores to earn more. We finally ot it on Friday. The fairy is the green and yellow twirling thing off to the right.

18/52, Sunday: How grown up does she look?